Ashalah’s New Year’s To Do List.

Screw resolutions. I can’t tell you how many I’ve made over the years (millions?) that I haven’t followed through on. I get things done much more efficiently if I have a nice To-Do List so that’s what this year is going to be about. One giant Life’s To Do List.

Be a Better Friend. Get Rid of the Toxins.

This is probably the one resolution that is the most important to me. I realize over the past few years I have let friendships slide, haven’t put in the proper time for them. I haven’t been the best a friend I could be. 2009 was a big year on finding myself and when I went off to Europe, I realized a lot of things, realized who I want to be and who I want in my life. So not only will I be a better friend but I will get rid of the friends who just aren’t there for me. Who bring more toxic to my life than positive energy. I believe you have to be the friend you want in someone else, so therefore, that’s what I’m doing.

Take More Risks.

When I stepped into my boss’ office and handed in my resignation, I think 50 doors opened at once, welcoming me in. For months I hmmed and hawed at this decision, though. I was terrified what taking this risk would lead to. WHAT IF I FAILED? What if I got to Europe and couldn’t do the whole traveling by myself thing? Except that it turned my life around. My life went from being incredibly depressing and just plain old horrendous to being the best year of this decade. Now I ask myself what would have happened if I hadn’t taken that chance? So this next year I plan on taking more risks. I certainly won’t be jumping out of any planes but I won’t turn down things that could change my life and make it better. First thing planned? Moving to Boulder, CO without a job or any real plan other than living life.

Be More Productive. Get More Organized.

I’ll admit I’ve kind of gotten the lazy thing down pat after a month of being home from Europe and living with my parents. One thing that has been a recurring theme though is the disorganization. When I became really unhappy with my job, I started letting other things slide in my life and now that my life is back in my control? It’s time to take back everything and become organized in all aspects. Being more organized will only lead to me being productive. It has been about a year since I did any real work and that year has been tough on my motivation but I think I can regain it back. Hell, I don’t just think, I KNOW. (Now that’s the attitude, Ashley!)

Manage My Weight and Eat Healthy.

Sigh. I think I make this resolution EVERY. YEAR. But this year I am going to try my hardest to make my lifestyle healthier. I lost 15 pounds while I was in Europe and while I did gain back five pounds after getting back to normal eating. Eating baguettes for three months will thin you right down. However, I’ve managed to keep my weight down and I’m at my average weight that I usually hover around. I’d love to lose a little more and tone up. I would love not to feel uncomfortable in my clothes. I know how good it feels to be healthy, I’ve been there before and I know how hard it was sticking with that lifestyle but it was worth it. I want to get back into Yoga, want to run again, want to go to the gym and get my ass kicked by the trainers.

Pack Up My Baggage and Lose It.

I have a hard time letting go of things, especially when it comes to guys. Every slight I’ve ever taken, every wound that has been inflicted, I tend to hold on to. And I need to stop. Sure, it sucks what I’ve been through in the love department but I don’t need to hold on to that. I need to pack that shit up, zip up my suitcase, go down to the detroit airport, put it on a flight and LOSE IT.

Take a Photography Class.

I want to learn more about photography, really get into the nitty gritty of it. I want to hone my skills and really get into it as a hobby, and maybe eventually be able to do it on a more professional level.

Take a Website Design Class. Get My Own Domain. Get A Custom Design.

When it comes to my blog, there are many things I dream for it’s little existence. I have been blogging for two and a half years and while making the headers is fun, I’d love to be able to have a custom designed blog. I can see myself at Ashalah for a long time so I’d love to have my own domain, my own place that reflects ME. I would of course love to know some web design just so that I know alittle bit. I’m pretty useless in that department and wouldn’t even know what to do WITH a custom designed blog should I get one!

Read More.

I have fourteen books on my bookshelf–physical books–that I have to read, not including the book I am currently reading. One thing I loved while traveling was picking up a good book and reading. I would read one a week; I often had a lot of time on my hands so I was able to do that. Even when I become busy I want to continue reading. It was so rewarding to get through a book and just love it.

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right. ~Oprah Winfrey

That’d be me, with one of the many glasses of champagne I had last night.

{photocredit: Me,}


Christmas Miracles, Missing New York, and Life Changing Decisions

Let’s lighten the mood up here a little bit, shall we? First of all, I want to thank each and every one of you for your kind words in the comments, in emails and facebook messages. If I haven’t emailed you back, trust me, I will. I just need to stop tearing up every time I read them! No words can describe how much your support means to me, though. So, thank you. Between the outpouring of love for Brandy in the Blogosphere yesterday (really, its never too late to send positive thoughts so please go send them if you haven’t!), and everyones support today, I am reminded of exactly why I blog. This is an amazing community, it really is.


This long holiday weekend was life changing, let me tell you. Not only did I leave the house twice and indulge in eggnog, cookies and hot apple cider, but I figured some shit out in my life.

But first, before we get to that, lets touch on this little Christmas Miracle: I LOST THREE POUNDS. I know, how the eff did THAT happen? I ate so many snickerdoodles, those little peanut butter cookies with the hershey kiss on them, nutballs, gingerbread cookies, gingerbread CAKE, sugar cookies…I’m practically made out of sugar and dough at this point. Christmas Eve’s stomach gymnastics aside, I have been eating myself silly this weekend and somehow, LOST weight. You better believe I’m giving the scale the wary eye, while at the same time celebrating. I am officially down to my normal, average weight after a year and a half of being at my biggest. I know that numbers shouldn’t count, but it does make me feel better. Especially when you go to GAP and realize you’ve dropped one pant size! PARTY TIME!

Friday and Saturday night I pulled out the wine and had a glass (or two) and put on some Lady Gaga  to dance around to while I was stuck at home. Not any different really than any old day in my house but I did add in a fashion show.

Everyone asks me when I’m coming back to visit the city and while visiting is high up on my list, it’s not possible right now. While I don’t want to live in NYC again, just yet, I do miss it. I miss my friends, all the things to do and see and all the pretty dresses I own that are severely underused here. Every time I would go out on a weekend, I would doll myself up in a pretty party dress and hit the town. It’s hard not being social. My good friend from NYC said it best: You’re not built for the suburbs.

It made me a little nostalgic to play around in them, but it also made me feel pretty good because dresses I bought a couple years ago that I’ve clung to in the hopes they will ever fit again, NOW FIT. I love impromptu fashion shows.

So this weekend was life-changing huh? Yeah, it really was.

You see, Doni is moving to Colorado, right? We have been talking a lot lately about me joining her and at first it was just an idea being thrown out there. Then the night before Christmas Eve my parents threw in my face that Christmas was over after this weekend and I have to have a PLAN and SOON.. A plan that involves me getting out of the house. They said I should just move somewhere and try to get a job once there. (I wonder if they’ve been reading Nicole…)

So this plan has been swirling around in my head and when Doni said that I should be her third roommate in Boulder, I started seriously thinking about it. I did my usual thing where I dance around with oh it’d be awesome to just pick up and go but I don’t know if I can do it. Reading over my archives the past couple nights, I found that I did exactly that before Europe happened. Yet, I took that risk, I quit my job and went to Europe for three months on a budget meant to last only 6 weeks and I said screw it. That risk paid off so amazingly well that how could this one NOT? Doing is better than sitting at home at my parents staring at the four walls I call my bedroom. Even if it’s hard, it’ll be worth the try.

Sunday morning, after a conversation with my father, several critical pieces (not a job, but other things like how I would be moving there) fell right into my lap and it’s official: I AM MOVING TO BOULDER IN A MONTH!!!!! I am being proactive and chasing my dreams to Colorado, with the hope that everything will work out (which they effing will.).

It’s going to be a month of hard work to get a job by February 1st, to get some extra cash into my bank account “just in case”, packing and doing even MORE editing of my belongings. There’s so much that needs to happen before I move but really? So trivial because I AM MOVING TO BOULDER!!!!   I could not be more excited.

Oh wait, I can because, after some research, I am going to VEGAS for the Sin City Blogger Meetup in May!!!!! Cue even MORE excitement. Who wants to be my roommate? 😉

2010 is going to be fucking awesome. Here’s to making things happen.

{Photo credit: Me!}